Stumbling Upon Joy Amidst All The Abunai

Stumbling Upon Joy Amidst All The Abunai

I have been thinking about danger a lot, lately. Reading the daily news headlines, I am reminded the world is full of dangers: the dangers of climate change; the dangers of geopolitical conflicts; the daily threats to democracy, free press, access to reproductive...
Do All of My Friends Hate Me? (No, No They Don’t)

Do All of My Friends Hate Me? (No, No They Don’t)

“All of my friends hate me.” Raise your hand if you have had this thought or something similar recently. Full disclosure, I am sheepishly raising my hand. Shortly after I completed the grueling experience of grad school during a pandemic, I convinced myself, with...
Tough Guy Shame

Tough Guy Shame

When meeting a new male client in my office, I often feel that I’m working hard to pull off layers of preconceived notions about how this therapy thing is supposed to go. I’m wondering if he feels compelled to give me an explanation for why he isn’t (fill in the...
The Strength Of Ten Grinches, Plus Two!

The Strength Of Ten Grinches, Plus Two!

Hello dear reader, My name is Moque and I am a recovering bah, humbug. I have found myself in the holiday spirit this year for the first time in decades, and I am feeling confused, and maybe a little bit suspicious. Allow me to present a few snowflakes of evidence of...
In Defense Of Grieving

In Defense Of Grieving

I missed my sister’s wedding this past weekend. I was packing my bag and triple-checking the location of my passport when I got the news that scientists had detected the Omicron variant in South Africa (my destination). Chaos and frantic Googling ensued. Should I...
A Patti Smith Moment

A Patti Smith Moment

When I think of mindfulness, I always think of Patti Smith. Yep, that Patti Smith who wrote the book Just Kids that chronicles her relationship with Robert Mapplethorpe. Or you may know her better as an amazing singer-songwriter whose album Horses appears on many top...